By Sheila Morrison, Sr. Consultant and 2013 Apriori Beauty Queen
“Appreciation is thanking, recognition is seeing, and encouragement is bringing hope for the future” – Unknown
Our message is counterintuitive to the Corporate message you receive daily from your job.
Try this. Go into your job tomorrow, approach your boss, supervisor, manager and say with confidence, “I will have your job by the end of 2014.” Then watch the facial expression on the person you are speaking to.
What did you see? Anger. Disbelief. Agreement. Encouragement.
Each of these will cue you how your commitment is being viewed and whether you are considered able to accomplish this goal.
I can say with almost 100% certainty that you will NOT receive encouragement from this person. You will have instilled fear in that person’s heart and mind, even if there should be none. You see, the corporate world operates on fear. Fear of success, yours versus mine. Fear of rejection, your acceptance over mine. Fear of losing, my job, my position, my salary. Fear of next level up. Fear of the boss. Your boss has a boss. Even the top boss has a boss.
The message that we carry goes against most of the corporate message. We carry a message of encouragement. We admonish faith. Faith in yourself, faith in your chosen Company, faith in the products.
Have you ever been in a stadium or arena watching someone you love competing or playing on a team? Allow me to use football as an example. Each person has a number and/or their last name on the back of their jersey. That helps you identify YOUR person, the one you are there to watch. Once play has begun, it is easy to lose sight of your player in all the melee. Imagine for a moment that after the play is completed, there is an injured player on the field. Other players gather round the injured player lying on the ground and what do you do? The moment gets a little tense because you cannot find YOUR player. You search for your player by number, height, color of jersey, form of body, anything….to assure you that the injured player is someone other than the player you came to watch.
You have been known to cheer your player, encouraging him, even though we know the chances are slim that he can hear you. We know! But, we continue to yell, expending our energy for our player. When he makes a contribution to the game, we will bump the person sitting next to us, smile, and ask, “Did you see that? That’s my son. That’s my daughter.” We are proud!
We notice when the other team picks up momentum and how that affects OUR player and his teammates. The team loses heart and each one walks a little dejectedly to the huddle. What do we do? We yell, “Have faith!” “You can do this. Come on!” We’ve seen the hours of practice. We’ve seen the play in the backyard with whomever would throw the ball hour after hour. We’ve heard the stories, we’ve heard, “The coach says this, and the coach says that.” We’ve observed how the team is maturing. Each play is becoming accustomed to how each player works, how strong each one is mentally, how each one handles setbacks and victories.
There is NEVER success without defeat. Let me repeat that. There is NEVER success without defeat!!! Without failure we would never know how to measure success. When winning comes easily for us, we get accustomed to winning. Then, when the first roadblock shows up and…we get taken back by it. We are being tested. Now what? Quit, slow down, or keep plugging away at our goal. There is always a choice. What the choice is affects us forever! The choice affects us FOREVER!!! Not just today. It affects us tomorrow and all the tomorrows to come.
When our player from the football game loses and comes home after the loss, we can praise him for the part played, the one good play accomplished, pointing out all the good stuff, but the reality remains…his team lost! There is one thing that doesn’t change though, isn’t there? We love that person, the player, and nothing can change that at all!! When the conversation is coming to a close and your player is feeling pretty bad about the results of the game, remind him that you love him, no matter what!! Win or lose, I love you!!!
At your j-o-b where do you find encouragement? Do you have faith in the corporation that owns your company? Are the employees treated with love and respect? Is the love there when failure occurs? Do you feel used at times? The company has a goal. It almost always involves money. A certain percentage of increase over last year’s numbers, whatever it takes to make more. However, the statement about success without defeat isn’t a mantra they like to acknowledge, if at all!
Leading a team with Apriori Beauty, we have to know the message. We have to know that each one of our team members comes with a different mindset and we must be willing to acknowledge that and encourage personal development to help each one on the journey to his/her individual goal. Meanwhile, we experience success along with defeat as we travel together with our teammates.
In the arena of Apriori Beauty, there will be wins and there will be losses; however, our job, yours and mine, will always be to affirm to each person joining this business…have faith! Come on, you can do it! I love you! This is the message from our heart.
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